There are many types of women in the world, ranging in a multitude of personalities, traits, and appearances. For today's lesson: The Golden Opportunists.
*For those who've never had encounters with these kind of women, or think that you might be in a relationship with one will do yourselves a favor and take notes so you can easily distinguish them from the other classes of female.*
Kin to the original "Gold Digger" but more advanced in looks and skill (i.e., beautiful, charming, seductive, flashy, etc.) appearances can be very deceiving as they tend to mimic the characteristics of the species "The Real Woman" upon first contact (supportive, nurturing, compromising, down to earth, etc.), a chameleon of sorts. These women usually aren't on the same financial or utility (e.g., cars, house, etc) status as the men they seek; for the ones who are, they soak up the resources of others so they don't deplete their own. Like the Player's Club mantra suggests, they use what they have to get what they want- from mere charm to getting physical, they will shamelessly exert maximum energy to lure them in until they capture their target. Their "prey" consists of "The Made Man" (entrepreneur, CEO, executives, etc.), "The Baller" (good or illegal hustler), and "The Bail Out Plan" (any man who earns more or has the potential to advance further than herself).
Now, there are those who are just looking for the right man to help them out of their failing economic state of affairs (usually, "The Bail Out Plan"). Whether you're fully loaded or just starting out in your career of choice, you're only existing to solely provide for her (and the kids, if any), and she'll act accordingly based on what you can give her. She won't (or can't) contribute anything along the same level or higher as you do because her mental state is "Men being the main provider is in their nature; it's what they're supposed to do, so take advantage and enjoy". So, once they become extremely comfortable, the next phase is to plant themselves firmly in the situation (relationship or pregnancy lockdown), then controlling every aspect to ensure that the benefits continue to roll in without any disruption to her new "lifestyle". This ranges from micromanaging the money YOU earn, to blocking out other people (esp. friends) so they don't alert you about who she is.
On the other end of the spectrum exists the female who preys on men to aid them in their climb up the social/financial/career ladder. From a seat in the VIP to gaining "the right connections", this woman is vicious; she wants it all and will stop at nothing to gain it. In order to obtain control she "plants" herself in the center of attention wherever you are by working the room to steal the show and everything else connected to you- contacts, places, books you read, even ideas YOU came up with- and claims them as her own. Her focus is to use up your resources, surpass you, then leave you behind with no traces of your existence so she can take the credit for her new found "success". Other than gaining a pretty arm piece for parties, you'll get a flimsy "thanks" at the most (usually in secret, she never thanks you in public or let other people know what you've done for them) along with that empty "played" feeling as she leaves you for the next prospect.
Now, all of these women will show you some love and might actually like you, but most of the time you'll only receive the lowest form to keep you interested. In some cases, they love and admire you so much they HATE you because all of things that you have or give to them further reminds them of how much they don't have, how empty they are inside, and what they could be now had they not wasted their time on bullshit. So, guess what happens when they don't get what they want and the well starts running dry? They initiate the "Dis factor" with extreme conflict (tearing your shit up, tantrums), name calling ("you ain't shit"), and "staging" scenarios so she can find a reason to start petty fights ("finding" underwear that belongs to "another female") . Then it rises, leading the female to disregard you as a human being, disrespect you to the fullest extent of the law, disengages herself from the situation and becomes disloyal to the point where she openly seeks out other men and leaves you on the spot.
So there you have it. As long as you all keep your eyes open (and your wallets secured), you can spot a Golden Opportunist within the minute you meet them, dismiss them in a heartbeat, and make time and space for The Real Woman in your world.
On the other end of the spectrum exists the female who preys on men to aid them in their climb up the social/financial/career ladder. From a seat in the VIP to gaining "the right connections", this woman is vicious; she wants it all and will stop at nothing to gain it. In order to obtain control she "plants" herself in the center of attention wherever you are by working the room to steal the show and everything else connected to you- contacts, places, books you read, even ideas YOU came up with- and claims them as her own. Her focus is to use up your resources, surpass you, then leave you behind with no traces of your existence so she can take the credit for her new found "success". Other than gaining a pretty arm piece for parties, you'll get a flimsy "thanks" at the most (usually in secret, she never thanks you in public or let other people know what you've done for them) along with that empty "played" feeling as she leaves you for the next prospect.
Now, all of these women will show you some love and might actually like you, but most of the time you'll only receive the lowest form to keep you interested. In some cases, they love and admire you so much they HATE you because all of things that you have or give to them further reminds them of how much they don't have, how empty they are inside, and what they could be now had they not wasted their time on bullshit. So, guess what happens when they don't get what they want and the well starts running dry? They initiate the "Dis factor" with extreme conflict (tearing your shit up, tantrums), name calling ("you ain't shit"), and "staging" scenarios so she can find a reason to start petty fights ("finding" underwear that belongs to "another female") . Then it rises, leading the female to disregard you as a human being, disrespect you to the fullest extent of the law, disengages herself from the situation and becomes disloyal to the point where she openly seeks out other men and leaves you on the spot.
Although everyone has dealt with this species from one aspect or another (even men qualify), the reports are frequently made by African American men who confirm that the traits of The Golden Opportunist exist largely among African American women. According to "TGO" specialists Mr. Arnold and Mr. Castro (and many of their colleagues), this is due to the breakdown of the family dynamic over the years leading them to embody the term "survival of the fittest", practically rending the family unit to an "endangered species" and sticking together through "thick and thin" a scarcity. Thus, most AA men who are just starting out in their careers receive a lack of support and loyalty from AA women because they need someone who's already established or showing signs of being on their way "up". In the end, men tend to "flip" from AA women to women of other ethnicities or the AA woman with "classic white woman" traits for the type of relationships they need (aka, The Real Woman species). Unfortunately, The Real Woman has to work twice as hard to gain trust, prove and distinguish herself because their men are still cautious and jaded from previous "TGO" encounters and relationships, giving them a 50% chance for breakthrough or fail due to the male concluding that "all women are the same". To bring some light to this phenomenon, Mr. Arnold shares an example from one of his colleagues "Eric":
"Eric was just starting out in his career as a lighting and sound engineer for a very reputable company, making very decent money. So he meets this young, highly attractive lady (profession or ambition unknown) and after awhile they become serious. 2 years into the relationship, she decides that she wants to go to school in Hawaii and they continue to maintain the relationship while she's away. Within months to a year at school, she secretly hooks up with a more known, wealthier guy on the island and gets married, while continuing her relationship with Eric as if nothing ever happened. As the energies of the universe would have it, the family of the girl informed Eric about the marriage and he broke up with her. Ironically, her new lifestyle ended as her husband decided to leave and divorced her (not for another woman, just because) and Eric starts earning three times as much as he did before. So, now she has no money, housing, status, or a man and left in the sandy beaches of Hawaii probably shucking clams for a living."
So there you have it. As long as you all keep your eyes open (and your wallets secured), you can spot a Golden Opportunist within the minute you meet them, dismiss them in a heartbeat, and make time and space for The Real Woman in your world.
